A lot of people are asking for the best approach on how to control anger and stress. Some say to just let it all out and vent your annoyance with everyday stressors, but even too much venting is unhealthy – and it happens a lot. This creates a cloud of negative energy that plummets productivity down to zero, and takes a toll on your body. Here is what I recommend you do instead:
Breathe and Meditate
The next time you find yourself yapping for more than an hour about the same thing, take a breather. 5 to 10 minutes of sitting in a quiet place or corner, such as the often unused fire exit in your office, and doing deep breaths can clear your mind, ease stress, and alleviate anger and anxiety. This is a very effective method of anger management, and is often underestimated by many. Try for yourself, and feel the difference with how you go about your usual activities after doing so. It can be an addicting habit!
Put It Into Words
Think of it as transferring your annoyance and anger into a piece of paper or onto you digital journal. This will help you see the stressor in a different perspective, and help you evaluate what is needed to be done and how to do it. That, and those problems and issues seems to be a lot smaller when your read it after, rather than when it’s wreaking havoc in your mind.
Set a Time Limit
I’m not saying that spending time to vent out or express your anger is unhealthy. Everyone needs it, but too much of it is counterproductive and can hurt your mental well-being even more. Set yourself a time-limit of a maximum of 15 minutes to rant, complain, or vent out. Once that time’s up, tell yourself to move on. It takes a little practice, but you’ll get the hang of how to control anger and stress.
Turn your frustrations into something productive, such as taking it out on a conversation with people you trust, with whom you can come up with solutions to solve the problem that’s been bugging you. This way, expressing your frustrations becomes even more therapeutic in nature, and you get to hit two birds with one stone on this one!
Set Your Plans Into Action
Now that you’ve come up with solutions, nothing can be more refreshing and recharging from being frustrated other than making those solutions work. Put them on a to do list, and start on that list right away. Yes, right now.
Find the Positive Angle
Find a different approach to the issue that shows a silver lining, in a way that it evokes feelings of happiness and contentment. Better yet, find something funny about your situation to lighten the mood and get your mind in perspective.
Accept Things For What They Are
Because sometimes, when things are not under your control, acceptance is the best approach on how to control anger and stress in everyday life. 🙂